Answer the phone or the door, then wish you hadn’t. The news, even if you expected it, will stun you. You will feel as if you’ve left your own body behind too, and are hovering slightly above yourself, watching the scene unfold like some terrible TV movie. Gag. Vomit. Shout No to the person who ... Read More about How to Survive Losing a Brother or Sister
I loathed the first Christmas after my brother died. I felt like the strands of jewel-toned lights were taunting me, the ads flashing symbols of family and love and togetherness. The tumbling of decades of holiday memories rising in my mind: the time my brother and I secretly opened each other’s ... Read More about If You’re Struggling with the Holidays, You’re Not Alone.
Check out my new piece over at the elephant journal. I originally wrote this from the viewpoint of a grieving sibling, but decided to open it up so that more people could relate to it. But my sibling loss people-- this is especially for you. ... Read More about New post on grief and loss at elephant journal
I'm thrilled to have a new piece over on the Headspace.com blog. This one's on getting older when someone you love doesn't. Thanks for reading, and take good care. Here's the link: https://www.headspace.com/blog/2016/06/30/the-brother-no-one-will-meet/ ... Read More about New post on Headspace
When I picked up the phone 16 years ago to the news that my brother was dead, it was the worst thing that had ever happened to me. He was my only sibling, the singular person who knew what it was like to grow up in our family. We were supposed to get a lifetime together, and instead, we got a short ... Read More about The Three Gifts of Grief